Ah, I figured it out, Mapping Gamepad, adding not conventional gamepads to Defold - #2 by sven helped me.
I had to make a copy of the .gamepads file and the controller identifier was:
Wireless 360 Controller
but the defaults.gamepad had Xbox 360 Controller (for windows)
Not sure if the defaults.gamepad file should be updated to include that, or if it’s just the driver/OS that I’m using (360Controller 0.16.8) (Mac 10.13.6)
Thanks